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Four Steps To Know A Person
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In our life, what is more important than knowing people who
matters to us most? The number of such people may not be very
high, yet they influence our
lives almost completely. If we can know their minds and thoughts
better, there is no doubt that we not only make our life better
but also the life of the
people around us. It is no secret that we can get what we want
in life only by the proper understanding of the people. In our
personal life, we can bring
peace and happiness only by understanding our loved ones. In our
professional life we can motivate our colleagues and team to
achieve the goal of the
organizations only by properly understanding them.
Yet understanding people is the most difficult knowledge to
learn in real life. This knowledge is not taught in any school
or college. Our understanding of man
based on the bookish knowledge derived from the books of
psychology, management, religion, culture etc. fails to help us
in understanding the real life
people. Which theory is to be applied on a person, when every
person is different and every theory is different? Theories are
much easier to use in material
domain as every atom, every molecule and every material behaves
in identical manner. How to deal with man, when every one is
different and no two people
are similar?
It gives us no respite, to know a person merely in terms of
probability or statistic when the person is too important to
you. You can't be satisfied to know
that if you scold your children, he is 56% likely to perform
poorly in exam. However, if you do not scold the child, his
chances of poor performance are
increased to 60%. These researches can't help you in exercising
of either option. You are scared of using either option as you
want your child to improve. You
do not have thousands of children that you can be satisfied with
a statistical probability. After all in the first case the
chances of failure is 44% while in the
second case, it is 40%. You have only one child and you want him
to improve. You want the right solution and not a random
solution.
The solution of all our problems lies in knowing the person as
accurately as one knows himself. If that can be possible then
you can be almost absolutely
sure that you will get the desired result. Are there really such
methods of knowing a person so completely?
One Person Four Personalities
We all bear many hats in our life. We are the simplest creature
on earth yet the most complex human being. Who are we?
We are a different person at our home. We are so simple at our
home that even our child knows us well. We play with them, enjoy
the simple games and
become a child itself. Our education, profession and knowledge
do not seem to influence our dear ones like our children, souse,
parents and even our dogs.
They all seems to know us very well.
We have a different personality with our friends. They too know
us well. We all know the mind of all our friends. The older is
the friend; the better is our
understanding of him. Friends not only know our personality but
they become the integral part of our personality. After all it
is wisely said "a man is known by
the company he keeps". Thus, your friends are often a close
refection of your personality.
Yet we are quite different on our job. The same person becomes
different when performing his job. We are completely different
person as a cop, philosopher,
teacher, politician or a sweeper. Our actions and thoughts are
shaped according to our job. There is a great similarity in all
people of similar profession. All
cops have similar traits, so have the traits of all teachers.
Finally, we are part of the society, nation and the world. We
are affected by every thing that is happening anywhere in the
society or the world. A man of
India is different than a man of China or USA. A man of twenty
first century is different than a man of tenth century.
However, man in not merely only a body i.e. the material entity
but he also has mind, soul and spirit. The complete personality
of the person can be known
only by knowing his body, mind, soul and spirit. Once you know
all four, there is nothing left in the person to be known as he
has become your extended Self
by the presence of the common spirit. The methods to know these
four aspects of man have requires following four steps.
The Physical Self
The body of the person is the most obvious representation of his
or her personality. Body represents the physical self of the
person as an animal and
represents the basic instincts or the natural instinct of the
person. The first distinction in the body emerges from the sex
of the person. The bodies of the
males and females are as different as their basic instinct. The
basic instincts of males and females are quite similar across
the world. So if you know one, you
know all. The second important thing which the body represents
is the raw passion or sensual desire of the person. A man with
uncontrolled passion would
have uncontrolled, fat and disproportionate body while a man who
has disciplined and controlled his desire would have a fitter
and proportionate body. The
movement of the body and limbs too represents the natural
personality of the person. This is often called as "body
language". A restless person must have a
restless body and peaceful person would have a peaceful body.
The Mental Self
The mind of the person is the most important attribute in his
professional life. The mind of the person is shaped on the basis
of the education and experience
of the person in his lifetime. One can know the mind of the
person from his educational qualification, experience and
profession experience as all goes into
shaping the mind of the person. The mind of the person is the
source of the reason and logic used by the person to interact
with the world. One can also
understand the mind of the person in the course of discussion
and communication i.e. the way he answers or responds to your
logic and reasons.
The Intellectual Self
The body, senses and mind apparently seem to be independent from
each other. It is also possible to measure these attributes of
human personality by
suitable instruments and tests. Yet they are all controlled by
the Soul of the person which represents the intelligence of the
person.
The mind and body of the person are changing every moment. A
person is happy in one movement but get worried on the very next
moment. A person may
be active in one moment but may become inactive due to illness
or hunger or tiredness few moments later. Thus our assessment of
the person may be totally
wrong if it is based merely on the knowledge of physical and
mental self. We have to know the force behind the body and mind
which does not change.
Gita (III 42-43) explains the relationship of body, senses,
mind, Individual Intelligence (Soul) and the Universal
Intelligence (God) in the following words.
The senses are superior to the body. Above the senses is the
mind, above the mind is the soul (individual intelligence) and
above the soul is God (Universal
Intelligence).
Knowing the intelligence self of the person is, therefore,
extremely important as it changes only little over a lifetime.
Just like one can know the tree from its
fruits, same is true for intelligence which controls the body
and the mind. If a person speaks evil for everybody, it shows
that his core (intelligence) too is evil.
Jesus said, (Mathew 7: 15-20)
"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing,
but underneath are ravenous wolves. By their fruits you will
know them. Do people pick
grapes from thorn bushes, or figs from thistles? Just so, every
good tree bears good fruit, and a rotten tree bears bad fruit. A
good tree cannot bear bad
fruit, nor can a rotten tree bear good fruit. Every tree that
does not bear good fruit will be cut down and thrown into the
fire. So by their fruits you will know
them."
The real nature of the person is intelligence of the person.
Body and mind are merely the tools in the control of the
intelligence self. Just like a fire can be
used to cook food or burn people, so does the body and mind can
be used for good or bad purposes by the intelligence? The
intelligence of the person has
to be understood by the synthesis of the diverse traits and
actions of the personality of the person using our own
intelligence and reasoning.
The Spiritual Self
It is believed in scriptures and philosophies that every living
being has the spark of the God or Spirit. No person is,
therefore, independent from other beings
as everyone is connected by the common thread of this spirit. It
is due to the common spirit that we cry when we see people in
misery and fell happy when
give happiness to others. It is due to the spiritual self, that
we connect ourselves with the rest of the world and enjoys or
feel pain in our life.
The spiritual self of the person is the non-material aspect of
the human personality. It is best known to our loved ones, when
there are no material rewards
or punishment for our actions. In your home, you get no reward
or punishment in being nice or nasty to your children, your wife
or your parents and elders.
Yet the expression of our spiritual self is the sour of all our
happiness and pain.
A spiritual person, therefore, highly value the nonmaterial
realities of life and seek happiness in selfless activities. We
are all spiritual to some extent else we
can never get happiness in our life. If you donate one billion
dollars to your computer or a lathe machine, it can never feel
any happiness. Only a man can feel
happiness even by wealth since he can use the wealth for
distribution to others selflessly which , makes him and others
happy.
The understanding of the spiritual self is purely based on
intuition and requires no knowledge or reasoning. It is similar
to the understanding that a child or a
dog has to their parents or their master. The sign of
spirituality is the peace, love and happiness. So when you meet
a person and feel more peaceful, loving
and happy, the person must be highly spiritual. You can
therefore expect help and compassion from such person. If the
feeling is otherwise, you have met a
materialistic and devilish person, who can only seek material
favour from you or seek pleasure in your pain.
The Complete Knowledge of A Person
Only by knowing all four aspect of a person which represents the
body, mind, soul and spirit of the person, you can understand
the real person. Such
understanding of a person requires not only the logical mind but
also the use of your basic instinct , intelligence , intuition
and experience. You can then know
the complete person using your intuition and know the real
thoughts of the person. Once you have understood the thoughts
and soul of a person, what is
left unknown about the person.
Mr. Awdhesh K Singh is an Engineer by education and philosopher
by passion. He has published several papers in International
Journals and Conferences on
the subject of E-governance, Artificial Intelligence , Fuzzy
Logic and Expert Systems .
He is the founding member of The Aatmic Science Foundation, (The
Science of Soul Foundation). His interest is in creating
synthesis between all religions and
sciences for the benefit of the mankind.
He can be contacted at his email address aksinghirs [a]
yahoo.com
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