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Friendship - An Eternal Enigma |
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We learn the value of friendship from a very early age. True
friendship is unconditional: it is an enigma - selfless loving
and giving. Perhaps we are too busy
pursuing our careers that we tend to ignore the most beautiful
thing in our lives: love and friendship. Everyone has different
ideas about relationships and
the approach may differ. It helps one to know that there are
'givers and takers' in this world and a role reversal is quite
unlikely. Friends may disappoint you
sometimes by not living up to your expectations. One who feels
that he or she is putting more into relationships need not feel
nobler as others may not feel
the same. Before you judge someone it is prudent to consider
that he or she may be incapable of love or friendship in the
same way. Therefore, it is the
interpretation of the measure of love or friendship that is
under scrutiny; perhaps the person who realizes this has earned
the right to be noble.
Human relationship is perhaps an enigma that can make you or
break you. The precious bond between mother and baby is the most
sacred of all, which
starts in the womb; this bonding gradually blossoms into its
various forms. The new life grows within her and it is no
surprise that she guards it with her life
from that moment. The baby comes into this world crying;
announcing to the world its arrival or perhaps a cry of protest
for being born. That precious bundle
is loved, cuddled and smothered in kisses from the moment of its
birth - the 'human relationship machinery' sets its wheels
rolling. Parents, relatives and
friends engulf the new life with their brand of love and care.
Children grow into adults knowing the values of love and
understanding or animosity and
selfishness. They start seeing the world through their parents'
eyes and therefore, the parents have a greater responsibility
during the formative years of
their children.
People can go through life without having experienced true
friendship of any kind. It is probably because of their
selfishness or perhaps due to the total
contentment within their small world; unfortunately this comfort
zone has a tendency to get smaller in later years. Some may even
have a tendency to
criticize everything and everyone around them feeling happy and
self-righteous. It is good to have friends, but it is even
better to have a few good friends
that one really cares for. As we get older we are more informed
of our choices and there is no need to spend our precious time
with people who make us
tense, irritable and unhappy. One may come across prejudice and
jealousy with the wrong type of people. True friendship develops
an emotional tie that is
strong enough to withstand time and space through thick and
thin. It should give you the freedom to share your innermost
feelings without having to
wonder whether it is going to put a strain on the relationship.
In this age of electronic technology, friendship need not be
restricted by distance - correspondence is possible within
minutes helping families and friends to
stay in touch. The time spent to nurture a true friendship is
time well spent. Human nature is a blend of many energies and
habits attempting to be one. It is
likely that some characteristics will become more dominant than
others. One needs different kinds of love and attention at
various stages of life; but with
vision, foresight and understanding one can get through life
with a happy smile if one is fortunate to have a true friend. A
true friendship is such that it can
withstand anything, proving to be an enigma indeed!
© E Menon 2008
I am a doctor working in the UK. I love writing and my articles
have been published in the UK and abroad. My hobbies include
reading, writing, gardening,
cooking, watching films, listening to music, helping
environmental causes. Etc.
My homepage: http://omana.net/
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